Ignorance Was Bliss

Sometimes the only difference between us and them… is who gets a key.

Episodes Date

There are certain things we don't talk about in polite society: Religion. Politics. Bodily functions. Alcoholism. Suicide. Let's ignore politeness and flaunt society, shall we? Because this shit matte...
September 21, 2018
In case my efforts at staying on topic, kind of, on Episode 37 were just not your cup of tea, fear not! Emily joined me for a remix on the ADHD/anxiety discussion (Now! With More Depression!), and thi...
September 16, 2018
One bad night. One series of bad decisions. One wrong turn. And suddenly you're in prison, for decades. What's that like? What do you miss about the outside world? What is surprising? What should chan...
September 14, 2018
So you're in a cult... or are you? How do you know? When do you know it's time to get out, and how on earth do you do that, anyway? I don't have the answers to really any of these questions, but I fou...
September 11, 2018
What makes a murderer? Who would possibly sign up to fight for a different country in a war with no personal significance? Just how immature is your host, anyway? These and more are addressed in a cro...
September 9, 2018
Some of the strongest, smartest, amazingest people I know are women with a history of addiction, two of whom I've never met in person, all of whom stubbornly refuse to see themselves as brave, admirab...
September 8, 2018
"I don't want to seem pushy... but you're wrong." One might imagine that two female podcasters, one in the crime/psychology genre and the other a horror fiction writer, would have a lot in common. One...
September 6, 2018
Recently, I was joined by Jason Eric Ross, psychotherapist, actor and writer, to answer the age-old question: What happens when two psychologists come at topics from different backgrounds but similar ...
September 4, 2018
If you haven't already checked out our shared episode on Chris' excellent show, Killer Jobs, please head over there and listen to that, first. It's not strictly necessary, in order to enjoy this one, ...
August 31, 2018
A quick-and-dirty sort of episode, to give you an update on the case that we talked about on Episode 32... Scott Reeder from Suspect Convictions called to talk about jury selection, the experience of ...
August 30, 2018
This episode is different for me, in several ways.   For one, it has not one, but two disclaimers. The first is done by Allyson from Dumb and Busted, and she did a lovely job. The second was my own c...
August 30, 2018
How do you know the difference between fear and anxiety? ...between specific and generalized anxiety? ...between distractibility and ADHD? ...between inattentive and hyperactive forms of ADHD?   How ...
August 20, 2018
Some tattoos have more meaning than others.   Don't believe this middle-aged soccer mom? Listen to Mark Bullen, who is about to release a book about Russian prison tattoos and what they mean. It can ...
August 17, 2018
AA is considered by many to be the ideal treatment approach for alcoholism, of all types, and really for substance abuse, in all forms.   If you've put up with me for this long, you may not be shocke...
August 13, 2018
There are facts all around us, all the time. Things that happened. Things that exist. Things that are missing. And then there are the stories we tell about those facts, the way we connect different fa...
August 10, 2018
The first part of my conversation with Scott Reeder (Suspect Convictions) remains focused and topical. The second part tends to ...stray... a bit, but maybe it needs to in order to make it clear that ...
August 8, 2018
What's the difference between obsession and determination? I think maybe it's research and journalism.    I got the chance to sit down with Scott Reeder, of Suspect Convictions, and he managed to bo...
August 7, 2018
Hard on the heels of an episode about stalking, I bring you... another episode about stalking.     But never fear, this one taps into a very different form, often and easily overlooked: female ...
August 7, 2018
Sometimes we laugh at the things that hurt the most. And sometimes we laugh at the impressive stupidity of the things that hurt the most.   Sometimes we rage at the patriarchy. And sometimes we under...
August 3, 2018
I was so lucky, recently, to be able to go on a two-week adventure around the British Isles with my husband and two older kids.   I was extra-lucky to be able to stay a night in Dublin, during which ...
July 26, 2018
This is a hodgepodge of silliness, weirdness and outright giddiness, captured one morning midway through our family vacation. We talk about the ways jet lag can appear in different teenagers, why Emil...
July 18, 2018
Most of the time, we can rely on the people around us -- family, friends, coworkers -- to help remind us what "normal" mostly looks like. But what about the times when we're allowed to believe our own...
July 12, 2018
I'm heading out on a family vacation, but first, a few things... 
July 8, 2018
What can you do when a faraway friend is struggling? What about when your kid defines Jesus for you? How about when you're not 100% certain that your loved ones actually know they're loved?   Settle ...
July 5, 2018
Sometimes the most structured and predictable situations can suddenly go unpredictably off-script, in the very best ways. Laura and I started off this episode by following a literal script about Fred...
July 1, 2018
Is it really that important to acknowledge the humanity of those who break the law, as well as those who are broken?   Yes. Yes, it is.   Listen in while Laura, from the Behind the Crime blog, and I...
July 1, 2018
Podcasters are an interesting bunch, especially those in the true crime world. I think we're often seen as cynical, sarcastic, potentially intrusive, thick-skinned, addicted to tragedy porn... but the...
June 29, 2018
Every once in a while, if you're very lucky, you'll form a friendship with someone who is smart and self-aware and vulnerable. And if you're not that lucky, you can at least listen in on a really fabu...
June 25, 2018
Who gets to decide when you have a problem? Sometimes you know, and sometimes you're clueless. Sometimes you're aware, and sometimes you're in denial.   Especially when substances, even legal and abo...
June 24, 2018
What does it mean to waste something? You have to value it first, then discard it, I think. But who decides, and how?   This becomes less cerebral and more horrific when the topic isn't a safe, high-...
June 17, 2018
My dear friend and role model, Sharna, came on the show to show us how it should be done. Results include musings on credentials, clarifications on the differences between psychiatry and psychology, ...
June 13, 2018
Some thoughts, after the apparent suicide of Kate Spade.   I can't do much, in a practial sense. But I can do this. Please listen.
June 6, 2018
Before I started this podcast, I would not have been able to guess that a relatively early episode would not just touch upon, but be based entirely upon the world of professional wrestling. But, well,...
June 5, 2018
Where is the line between hobby and craft... and obsession? I think most podcasts start out as little hobbies, and then they can grow, sometimes without us even realizing it's happening. Shane Waters,...
May 29, 2018
Anxiety is what happens when your nerves give the finger to your sense of logic.   Somehow that felt profound to me, during the editing process. I don't know. I spent more time with this episode -- l...
May 18, 2018
Another crossover! Courtney used the first half of the conversation, so if you haven't already, go check out The Cult of Domesticity podcast. I'll wait here.   And if you're pressed for time, fine, t...
May 15, 2018
I know, I just released an episode, AND I have one planned for Tuesday, so once again it's feast or famine with me. Ah well.   This is what happens when a bunch of podcasters say, "Yeah, we really SH...
May 14, 2018
She's baaaack...    Emily joined me again, this time to stay a bit less bizarre and discuss a mysterious double disappearance in the Panamanian rainforest. Kris Kremers and Lisanne Froon were Dutch ...
May 13, 2018
In my first episode, I was fortunate enough to share the story of a close friend, as well as that of another domestic violence survivor, in an effort to demonstrate why people might stay in a hurtful ...
May 8, 2018
How does a psychologist cope with a Really Bad Day? Well, apparently, today, I coped by tossing together another episode, with the inadvertant help of my friend Jessa, from the Getting Off podcast. W...
April 27, 2018
And now we get down to it. This is what makes me happy: talking, occasionally inappropriately, about Mean People Doing Bad Things. Playing with the specificities of diagnosis. Including slang and pop ...
April 26, 2018
Nothing is sacred -- not the simplicity of a Hallmark card or the complexity of someone's Lucky Shirt for his Favorite Team -- when two scholars are allowed to ponder without careful supervision. This...
April 24, 2018
I've been meaning to ask my mom for a long time, why does she keep finding jobs that would depress the sheer hell out of me, or send me over the ever-shaky edge into homicidality: political activism, ...
April 23, 2018
I really, really didn't think I would ever get this episode out to you all. Like, really.  First of all, it's the result of a crossover with Billy & Erica, from Martinis and the Macabre, and I wa...
April 15, 2018
How do we know when it's time to go to the ER?   Sometimes, we're bleeding heavily, or losing consciousness, or spiking a fever. Other times, it's harder to know, because the same organ that is prima...
April 7, 2018
Lots of people know that you're supposed to go to the ER when you're experiencing a mental health crisis, but how many really know what the process is like?   In this episode, Kim, the ER nurse both ...
April 4, 2018
You know that thing where you try to make sense of a topic, and it simply refuses to click? I have that about certain corners of the internet, specifically the weird ones where creepypasta, ARGs and C...
March 19, 2018
What does it mean to actually have schizophrenia? Not just, what might it mean or what does it look like, but what does it feel like? ...are you sure you want to know?? -------------------------------...
March 8, 2018
Sometimes, you're in your home. The doors are locked. You're careful about who you let in... and yet tragedy finds you anyway. A huge and grateful shout-out to Dick from the True Crime Brewery podcast...
February 28, 2018
Jim and Kit, from the Forgotten News Podcast, were gracious enough to invite me to play along, despite my utter cluelessness in the matter of contributing to compilation type shows. My segment is here...
February 14, 2018

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